WHY WE GET FRUSTRATED AND HOW TO COPE WITH IT
When you try to ignore how you feel about a particular situation, or a person’s behavior or anything, it can not only make you feel worse about it, but it can also cause you to feel frustrated. Your frustrations are important because they indicate that you are being held back by limitations, habits and self-imposed barriers. You feel worried, in a hurry and out of control when something is not “going well”. You are the reason why you are feeling frustrated, and only you can break free from this cycle.
Keep in mind that before you will learn how to overcome your moments of frustration, you need to become aware of the early warning signs of frustration. The earlier you take control of your feeling of frustration, the better off you will be in the long-run.
The importance and benefits of your frustration
The feeling of frustration it comes when you are not satisfying your needs, desires or wants through your own efforts and actions. But frustrations can also have some benefits and a positive impact on your life because if you feel frustrated, it means that you still have the motivation that you need to figure things out and you are still trying to solve your problem and not abandon it.
The feeling of frustration can also help your imagination and sense because when you are not happy about your circumstances, you still feel determined to get things done and this helps you to wake up your senses and spot something you might have missed. You get more creatively about the situation you are facing, and you turn into a problem solver.
Frustrated? Manage your frustration
When you try to manage your feelings of frustration, it is absolutely critical for you that you stay positive and proactive through this process. Do not fall into the trap of depression and feeling sorry for yourself. Feeling sorry for yourself will deny you the opportunity to get through this frustration with success. Instead, look for ways of how you can successfully manage your frustrations to make them work for you, rather than against you.
Here is a process of 3 steps that will help to better manage your frustrations on a daily basis:
Step 1: Notice the Early Signs
The first step, of course, is to identify the early signs and triggers of your frustration. What kinds of feelings are coming up to you? Are there any goals you haven’t accomplished? Or a relationship you are not good at? Skills you would like to learn but you don’t have time to? Projects that you have procrastinated on? A task that isn’t getting done? Whatever it is, these feeling are the signal that you have expectations that you aren’t meeting.
We all have these kinds of expectations. But we need to immediately begin to work through them and help ourselves to better manage the emotion of frustration.
Step 2: Focus on the Important Things
When you feel frustrated, it is absolutely important for you to take control on how and where you focus your mind. You can focus on the things that will help you to get through this problem with success, or you can focus on things that will keep you frustrated and trapped in the problem.
Focus on solutions that will help you to move forward. Focus on what is it that you want to achieve and have. Focusing on the important things and having clarified what you want will help you to dig yourself out of these frustrating moments.
Step 3: Learn to Handle Frustration on a Long-Term
Frustration is a part of your life. You might not get frustrated today. But sooner or later something won’t go as expected and you will experience the feeling of frustration. And that is the moment that you must prepare for.
Frustration can be sometimes overwhelming so find ways to relax, to improve your organization skills. Relaxation doesn’t mean that you are ignoring your problems. Relaxation actually allows you to separate yourself from frustration to clear your mind.