Overcoming negativity and how to stop taking things personally:
We live in a world where people are not always nice to one another. Where unkind and hurtful words are present on a daily basis. In this article, you will find a few ways to help you deal with the negativity and with the people who spread these negative vibes.
1. Realize that other people’s rudeness is about them, not you. You are not defined by others.
The rude words that come out from a person, their actions and behavior are more likely to be a reflection of their own issues rather than something personal. Usually, when this kind of people are rude to you, they actually reveal the wounds and the pain that are present within them. It’s important for you to always keep in mind that it’s not about you, it’s about them.
2. Let go of the need to be liked.
We know that we can’t make everybody like us, and that is something normal. It’s impossible to be liked by everyone so don’t take it personally when they don’t, even if it feels like it is personal.
3. Take comments or criticism in a constructive way and allow it to help you grow.
Don’t be afraid of constructive criticism. While your first instinct would be to take it personally, you better ask yourself if there is any truth to it, and what you can learn.
4. Admire and trust yourself.
Do not allow your happiness to depend on others. Trust in yourself and focus on your worth and value. Realize that your self-worth depends on you and only you, and not on what others say about you.
5. It’s not worth your time and energy.
We waste too much time and energy trying to understand why some people don’t like us. And in this process, we forget to give attention to those who love and appreciate us. Focus on the positive people you have in your life and share your happiness with them. In the end, they are the ones that matter.
Realize that you can not please everyone. If someone is not on the same page with you, don’t take it personally, don’t waste your energy to understand why they don’t like you. Instead, focus on yourself and on the people who like you just the way you are.